So we are expecting a new baby. I was trying to figure out if I would prefer a girl or a boy. There is a rational to my wondering and it is as follows. I think a lot of people believe that, as I believe, there is a special relationship between a mother and daughter and its own special relationship between a father and son. By special I mean potentially highly explosive. Girls understand women and boys understand men. Eventually they will begin to disappoint each other and that is when the fireworks start. Of course things will calm down again as they all get older but I have seen some same sex family battles that would make a Viking warrior shiver in his furry boots.
Now, my situation is that I already have a daughter. So, while I accept that hell fire will surely rain on me from above from some time in our development, I am just as sure that we shall both apologize shortly afterwards and it will soon be water under the bridge. But what if I have a boy... then I know that our rumbling volcano of a relationship could go off any time. And it is a whole other type of warfare. Man versus man.
I know it’s kind of cruel, but if we have a second girl I know that whilst there will be pain at least it is the same kind of pain and I am perfectly ok with that. Of course with either a boy or a girl all this is still around a decade away, but sometime I like to psychologically prepare myself in advance.
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I think a boy would bring balance to the force. The Oedipal factor would keep you on your toes as well. If he ever buys boots, & gets up before dawn, run.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that gender makes a big difference in whether there will be family battles or not. Sounds like you would prefer another girl, maybe you like buying dresses?
Only getting around ro reading this now and I am holding our new little girl as I type. I think we're both happy that we had a girl, obviously now for different reasons! To me it's all easier and more familiar because we've already got a little girl and I once was a little girl so i know what they are into but after reading this blog,I realise that every time i ever gave out to my Mam is going to come back on me tenfold...multiplied by 2! So Donal, your job is going to be constantly trying to resolve all the issues between me and Sophie, Sophie and Lucy, me and Lucy! b
ReplyDeleteBlessed art thou amongst women! Blessed are the peacemakers or is that cheesemakers...
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